Do people seriously conciously fantasize about taking part in erotic acts with real people (especially ones they have feelings for)? It seems extremely disrespectful to me. (if the involved parties are in a relationship it’s probably OK)
real people
Ew
I only consciously fantasise about people who don’t exist.
Sometimes they aren’t even people, they could be abstract concepts, like a time format, or a plan.
Sometimes I even fantasise about concepts of a plan.
What exactly are you fantasizing about time formats?
ISO 8601 fetishists.
Or a real pervert who is into that American date format abomination.
Do people seriously conciously fantasize about taking part in erotic acts with real people (especially ones they have feelings for)?
Yes.
I kinda get the disrespect perspective, maybe. I felt that a little as a teen. But then I thought it probably wasn’t respectful treating my crush in my mind like a sort of sexless statue or object rather than a real human being that I was in love with and wanted to have sex with.
Maybe I seperate love and sex a bit too much (or just more than average)? When I have romantic feelings it doesn’t make me want to sleep with the person they’re directed towards. But I also would likely not decline an invitation to engage in such acts (and given enough time might eventually ask on my own) but until some sort of mutual attraction has been verified I just avoid thinking of them in a sexual way.
Sounds like you might be on the asexual spectrum.
That one’s a spectrum too???
Yep, they all are!
