I’m 36 and have been with my current girlfriend for almost 5 years now - my longest relationship yet. We live together & everything else couply, just not married. I see marriage as unnecessary pressure that has a tendency to put strain on the relationship. Right now if we’re happy together we stay, if we’re not we split. Simple. Marriage complicates it.

    • MajorMajormajormajor@lemmy.ca
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      13 days ago

      Where I’m from if you live together a year it’s the same, legally, as marriage. So most people get married if they’re traditional/religious, or want a big party. There’s almost zero legal difference.

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        13 days ago

        A cop told me, “There are two toothbrushes in the bathroom? Married.” Colorado, I think common law marriages kick in at 6 months.

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          That seems dumb. I share an apartment with a friend, which is getting more and more common in this housing market. Would this law mean we’d be married even though we’re just friends or does it only apply to men and women living together (and does that mean that 2 people of different sex cannot live together as friends without accidentally getting married?)

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            Idk about the states but where I’m from common law is also 6 months and generally is considered if people are living together as a couple for 6 mos. then they are technically in a common law marriage. They can make the claim on taxes or health insurance benefits whatever other claims and it is legally allowed.

            Two roommates who don’t claim that they’re married anywhere legally are not in a common law marriage.

            Same sex marriage is legal in my country so I assume this rule applies to any couple living together.