Holy shit what a way to go.

Get horny > have sex > orgasm > keep orgasming > die of too much orgasm

Had this conversation with my wife early in our marriage. I got the, “fine, I’m wrong, you’re right. You’re always right.” And I said, “I’m not always right. I’m often wrong. I just don’t make a big deal out of it, apologize if I need to, and we all move on and you forget about it. You remember all the times you’re wrong because it always turns into a conversation like this.” Then she started noticing and started being more chill about being wrong (she grew up in a VERY shitty household with a narcissist mother where admission of wronghood was an opportunity to get absolutely shit on).

It’s amazing how a simple, “oh, you’re right, my bad” can improve your life and reputation.

I’ll never understand how difficult people make things by not being forthright and making things awkward:

“Is it okay if I bring my boyfriend?”

“…I think there’s been a misunderstanding. I had asked you on a hike as a fun first date, I didn’t realize you had a boyfriend. I’m going to bow out of this, but I can give you the hike info if you want to take him.” And then you laugh about the misunderstanding the next work day, and keep things at work from then on. No reason for it to get bad. Flirting is still fun! Just leave it at that without expecting anything more.

There are more appropriate ways to say this:

"Nobody with kids. I might want kids some day, but I’m not ready yet, and it feels like there would be too much pressure to either be involved with her kids or be cut out of a major portion of her life until we’re really serious. And again, not ready.

And somebody athletic, since I’m into biking and hiking and other activities that require a certain level of fitness.

And… well, somebody who isn’t into the whole casual sex thing, honestly. I think sex is special and, for me, requires a strong emotional connection. I want someone who has similar views on sex."

See, I feel like it changes it when you’re not focusing on the other person, but yourself. I’m not ready for kids, I’m into fitness, I’m a demisexual. It sets up the same thing without disparaging people who aren’t what you’re looking for.