I haven’t checked out Beehaw in a while, but I used to enjoy spending time there. Some people didn’t like it because of how heavily they curated their instance, but I really enjoyed how polite it was. It ultimately discouraged a lot of people from going there, which they saw as good, but most outsiders saw as bad.

As .world ramped up in volume, I had more and more to interact with here, and I ran out of time to be instance hopping so I haven’t checked what they’re up to lately.

Overall, blahaj seems to have done a better job doing something similar while not alienating people. But if you want to see a Lemmy instance that decided to take the route less taken, maybe give them a look.

Couldn’t agree more. It really focuses on positive ways of getting people to function as a group. The sports is largely just a backdrop, and it’s all about character development, getting to know all the characters as individuals, and finding their strengths and weaknesses, and not trying to have others fix their flaws, but for them to overcome them themselves through better self-understanding.

I don’t think there was a single character that I wasn’t interested in by the time they were done. It felt like I was a part of the team. It’s is very over the top positive, but it’s more of a “I wish more people were like this” way than a patronizing thing it could have been if it was done more heavy handed.

Lol what in the world causes that face? I’ve had half a dozen cats and I don’t ever recall them doing that! 😂

All the non-political ones! 😉

Your mind filled in a lot of gaps of who this other person is, based on what you knew based on just a narrow part of their life. It doesn’t sound like you have an issue with them having an OF, I think it’s an important distinction that you understand what was in your mind is what was odd, as the picture you had of them was so inaccurate.

They aren’t doing anything odd, since it is who they are. It’s just them. You don’t know why they’re doing it. They may like it, they may hate it and are doing it to cover bills or something. While you now know more about them, you still don’t know them as a whole person.

Thinking about people we like, respect, etc having sex is just not something most people typically do. Most everyone has sex though. Our parents, neighbors, celebrities, church people, racists, influencers, news anchors, etc. It’s just we think of all those people in other scenarios first before we think of them doing the nasty. You just basically walked in on someone while they were in the act and now it’s gotten your mind scattered.

If you follow them and this has affected you, you obviously like and respect them. That probably means watching their OF isn’t the best idea if you want to continue thinking of them the way you were before. You’ve just seen a more intimate side of them now, and you can remind yourself there is more to them than just what you have seen so far.

I’m a bit tired, so I hope that all made sense!