For the federating its a new kind of AP actor. I’ll be putting in a FEP for it in the near future, but its basically a “Group” that only cares about the “Following” collection.

You can see example json for the AP interactions here: https://codeberg.org/rimu/pyfedi/src/branch/main/docs/activitypub_examples/feeds

The AP interactions for a Feed are:

• Send a Follow request for a Feed
• Accept a Follow request (this is automatic for public feeds)
• Reject a Follow request (this is automatic for private feeds)
• Announce an Add of a Community to a Feed
• Announce a Remove of a Community from a Feed
• Send a Delete of a Feed to subscribers

I have done this exact thing. Its what multiple career coaches have said to do. In my experience the networking aspect of job hunting is the part that actually gets jobs these days.

So, imo, this is not wrong. Bob agreed so it was fine. It does sound like maybe buying Bob a beer and not asking that particular Bob to do it again is reasonable. But the process in general is sound!