Most instances don’t allows spread of misinformation especially about minorities such as trans people. You’d be better off creating your own instance if you want to have 100% control over what you see.

For more information about that topic here’s an article about it: https://www.gendergp.com/new-report-confirms-trans-athletes-do-not-have-biomedical-advantage-in-elite-sport/

What is wrong with the instance you are currently on if I may ask?

The word Free Speech is often used to allow for hate / bigotry towards minorities in current day. So it’ll good to know what you are actually looking for.

I’m unsure if there is an instance like that especially as you can’t force for something is completely open to anything being said from federating with everyone. You are probably better off creating your own Lemmy server tbh.

I’ve tried to do things I enjoy but it seems like most people hate what I try and do, had it today that i’ve spend over a week working on something making it work and things and then no everyone hates it and not only hates it but is going at me because of it, just doesn’t seem worth having passions anymore,

Done that, can be helpful but gets pricey when you don’t have much money.

I thought most people moved from Reddit due to the way the platform was managed with AI stuff and the API

At least it’s a good attempt at showing Reddit users that they could move across and not loose anything, getting one user across at a time is the goal with this sort of thing wouldn’t it?