To some degree, yes, but there’s probably a level of adaptation I could make without losing myself in the process. At the same time, it’s frustrating to have to sacrifice some of what makes you unique because you’re too radical for wider society. It’s quite the dilemma, and one that I’ve seen popping up again and again as I’ve increasingly diverged from the mainstream on multiple fronts.

Wow, that felt like the craziest and least relatable part that I wrote, lol. Though maybe I didn’t fully elaborate: Kisses are the main event and literally THE most sexually exciting thing for me. But I also want sexual contact; it’s just secondary and assists in the experience. And “real sex,” the kind that people use contraception for, feels like a liability. I’m sure that other forms of sexual contact would work to supplement the kissing without the risks.

I don’t care about sex on its own (unless it’s a very naughty form of kissing) because it feels like a routine that everyone does. But with kissing, it’s very personal: your partner is right in your face showering you with love in their own unique way, and they can be as creative and expressive as they want. That’s a big reason why I find kisses to be sexier than sex, lol.

Thanks, and congrats on your wonderful relationship!

Yeah, I think this label probably fits me best! I’ve read that it can refer to attraction based on specific conditions, and mine seems to be conditional on physical affection, real or imagined.

I did! It was nice to read about other people with similar experiences to me, but I also realized that I don’t entirely fit the label. I don’t need a strong emotional connection to feel physical attraction; I just need to be shown affection, which can happen way sooner than it takes to develop a relationship. Though, I bet my attraction would increase as the relationship develops.

So you could consider me demi-adjacent, but I’m careful not to box myself into that label. My attraction to affection may give me many things in common with demisexual people, but it’s also not the full story. They’re cool though, and if there was a place where I could meet lots of single demi people, I would definitely consider looking there!