Women just don’t thrive on competition the way we do. They will absolutely nerd out on most other shit though, anything from Pokemon party builds to Fallout lore to puzzles.
The only other girl filter I’ve seen besides competition is the hardcore autistic stuff like logistics and simulators; not nearly as many women playing Factorio, Mudrunner, Elite, etc… They’re out there though, and there are exceptions like Wurm Online that attract more women than you would otherwise expect.
But that’s the stuff that’s fun! A good game is a game I have a spreadsheet for.
When I was a pre-teen, I used to play Diablo with a married couple that played together. (I never met them IRL, just in-game.) That created some unrealistic expectations for me about romantic partners and computer games - I wanted to date a woman who shared my interest in games, but I never met even a single one and so I gave up on that long ago. A couple of women I dated did want to try playing games with me because they were interested in sharing my hobbies, but they were so bad at the games I liked and the games they wanted to play were so casual (and they were bad at those too). I knew I was being an asshole but I still refused to keep playing with them. It was just too frustrating.
I should clarify that I didn’t expect someone who had never played games before to become a pro instantly. What bothered me was that they didn’t even seem to want to win. Nowadays I just accept that I’m way more intense about games than most people (not just women) are and so I deliberately avoid showing that part of myself IRL. It wouldn’t look good.
As a girl, my experience is even the particularly competitive women basically get harassed out of competitive gaming. My exes and I used to play overwatch together and I have an all female friend group that sometimes plays valorant together and yeah the misogyny has guaranteed we all stay casuals.
I mean everyone gets harassed by the small amount of shitheads online. I used to get death threats at least once a day in World of Tanks. People would pick whatever they thought would offend me, throwing racial epithets, ableist terms… Name it, I got it. That’s how shitheads work: they throw stuff at you, see what sticks, and start digging where they see the marks.
I really am not sure that’s true. I think that has more to do with socialization than one actually being more competitive. I am supposedly a guy and I rarely feel that competitive over stuff like gaming, and that’s despite having anger issues for a good portion of my life.
As someone else said misogyny tends to push women away from these communities as well.
Yeah, I can agree with that. My wife likes playing smash bros with me and my friends, but she’s nowhere near the levels of me and my two buddies who are really good. She’s getting there slowly tho.
Women just don’t thrive on competition the way we do. They will absolutely nerd out on most other shit though, anything from Pokemon party builds to Fallout lore to puzzles.
The only other girl filter I’ve seen besides competition is the hardcore autistic stuff like logistics and simulators; not nearly as many women playing Factorio, Mudrunner, Elite, etc… They’re out there though, and there are exceptions like Wurm Online that attract more women than you would otherwise expect.
But that’s the stuff that’s fun! A good game is a game I have a spreadsheet for.
When I was a pre-teen, I used to play Diablo with a married couple that played together. (I never met them IRL, just in-game.) That created some unrealistic expectations for me about romantic partners and computer games - I wanted to date a woman who shared my interest in games, but I never met even a single one and so I gave up on that long ago. A couple of women I dated did want to try playing games with me because they were interested in sharing my hobbies, but they were so bad at the games I liked and the games they wanted to play were so casual (and they were bad at those too). I knew I was being an asshole but I still refused to keep playing with them. It was just too frustrating.
I should clarify that I didn’t expect someone who had never played games before to become a pro instantly. What bothered me was that they didn’t even seem to want to win. Nowadays I just accept that I’m way more intense about games than most people (not just women) are and so I deliberately avoid showing that part of myself IRL. It wouldn’t look good.
As a girl, my experience is even the particularly competitive women basically get harassed out of competitive gaming. My exes and I used to play overwatch together and I have an all female friend group that sometimes plays valorant together and yeah the misogyny has guaranteed we all stay casuals.
I mean everyone gets harassed by the small amount of shitheads online. I used to get death threats at least once a day in World of Tanks. People would pick whatever they thought would offend me, throwing racial epithets, ableist terms… Name it, I got it. That’s how shitheads work: they throw stuff at you, see what sticks, and start digging where they see the marks.
I really am not sure that’s true. I think that has more to do with socialization than one actually being more competitive. I am supposedly a guy and I rarely feel that competitive over stuff like gaming, and that’s despite having anger issues for a good portion of my life.
As someone else said misogyny tends to push women away from these communities as well.
Yeah, I can agree with that. My wife likes playing smash bros with me and my friends, but she’s nowhere near the levels of me and my two buddies who are really good. She’s getting there slowly tho.