Was banned on a totally different instance and community despite never commenting in the community.

I suspect I was banned for questioning the narrative in this thread yesterday:

https://lemmy.world/pictrs/image/be066e3c-b1ae-416c-bc71-248d3056c6ed.jpeg?thumbnail=1500&format=webp

I am a trans person and have no issue with trans people expressing who they are. The mods and admins of blahaj frequently use Gatekeeping as a false umbrella ban for any user they want to get rid of. This is also discussed in yesterday’s thread by some users.

The owners of that 196 space have proven they are unable to let sleeping dogs lie and are hellbent on tearing down all other instances in a tribal war, and have decided to start lurking in other spaces and preemptively banning people like reddit mods.

This is not fair moderation practices, it’s a petty tit for tat because abuse in their community was called out yesterday.

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    If this isn’t gatekeeping, then what is it? Sparkling “just asking questions”? This is what gatekeeping is, sweetheart. It’s a form of bigotry in which you tell someone, either directly or through implied statements, that their identity isn’t valid. No wonder you got banned from a queer safe space. It doesn’t matter how trans or gay you are, perpetuating the cycle of abuse will get you banned from queer safe spaces.

    If you’re unable to fathom the possibility that someone could have an identity that doesn’t make sense to you, grow up. There are a lot of things that people do which seem silly in life but are an integral part of who they are. Grow the fuck up.

    Edit as a warning to cis allies for this comment chain: I was a bit sloppy with my aim, sorry if you caught a stray bullet.

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      I am a trans woman.

      I have no issue with Neopronouns, they/them/it, even the humans who identify as like Xi/Xit I’m fine with even though it’s a bit weird imo.

      But non human gender identities is where I draw the line

      I’m sorry, but I don’t like transgender people being looped in with people who want to be animals, mythical creatures, and aliens. It comes off as disingenuous when these people try to insert themselves into trans spaces to get validation while trans people IRL are being put in camps.

      Ironically the admins have decided what the definitons of transgender are, and gatekeep that definiton.

      If you think bullying trans people into these weird guilt games is productive then maybe you should grow up, sweetheart.

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        I’m trans too, so it doesn’t matter how many times you say you’re trans sweetheart. That’s not gonna work. Furthermore, unlike you, I’ve decided not to let the cis people define who I am. If it wasn’t the otherkin and therians then it’d be someone else they’d be demanding we remove. I remember when people said enbies weren’t valid. So some people decided to try to exclude enbies from the definition of being trans and you know what happened? The leopards turned around and ate their faces once they were done feeding on the enbies.

        Why do you care what cis people think? That’s the only reason why you’d care. That’s literally the only reason why you’d give a shit is if you think being trans is some kinda fucked up badge of pride or if you’re trying to tame transness for the poor, sensitive cis people. Lemme tell you, the leopard will never cease to be hungry sweetheart. Grow up and quit caring about what the cis bigots think. Stop helping them to be bigots. They’ll come for us sooner or later, doesn’t matter how many people you throw under the bus.

        And yes, I’m being condescending because you’re acting like a child, trying to tell everyone how to play the game because a bunch of bullies once told you how you were supposed to play it. Do you know what those bullies are called? Fascists. Do you know what we do with fascists? I’ll give you a hint, we don’t sit down and drink tea with them. Fascists are not worth the air they breath. Stop feeding them. Until you do, you are no better than they are.

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          So what is the healthy conclusion that is reached by conflating trans human beings with people who want to be dogs and aliens? Do you understand in the real world somebody hears that and assumes everyone involved is crazy?

          I remember this same drama happening on reddit, and after the terfs failed to invalidate enby people the terfs started to become dogs and attack helicopters to make a mockery of our non cis genders.

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            If my parents and grandparents can understand it or at least learn to accept it, so can your average person. We’re being true to ourselves. We’re living our lives the way we see fit. We are alive, at least for now, and I will stand my ground because I’m not a pussy-ass bitch who’d sell out my friends and family to make a bigot happy.

            If you want to hurt yourself to make the cis people happy, then go knock yourself out, I suppose. However I’d appreciate it if you’d do it a nice, safe distance away from my family, friends and I; which means queer safe spaces don’t seem like your speed.

            Me? I’ll be encouraging my friends and family to thrive and be the people they’ve always wanted to be.

            I’m sorry you’ve never had anyone to give you that strength.

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              Ok, you aren’t using Neopronouns so that really isn’t relevant. Your pronouns say she/they

              Would your grandparents respond positively to you trying to convince them you are a dog?

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                I wore my opossum tail during family Christmas. No one cared. I wore my collar. No one cared. I wore my furry stuff and carried my plushies around and despite being 30yrs old, you know, the age well beyond the point where you’re supposed to have grown out of that stuff, no one cared. This was in Texas.

                You know why I wore my opossum tail and collar? Because at the end of the day I feel like I have an opossum’s soul and it honestly feels really weird not to wear them. I’m fucking skrunkly and constantly worried about everything. Did I make a big deal out of it though? No. I just lived my life the way I wanted to and no one had a problem with it. The reason I don’t use neopronouns has nothing to do with their validity, I simply find them awkward. However I will not tell someone they are invalid or they shouldn’t use them themselves.

                Oh, and before you try to tell me I’m invalid, I’m AMAB. I’m trans in more than one way.

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                  You know why I wore my opossum tail and collar? Because at the end of the day I feel like I have an opossum’s soul and it honestly feels really weird not to wear them.

                  Jesus fucking Christ.

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                    Sorry, I had to take a screenshot of your original response because I don’t think I’ve ever made someone this mad just by being right.

                    Also, why does it matter to you how I express myself? Again, grow up.

                    How old are you if you don’t mind?

                    I literally just told you that I’m 30, lmao.

                    And yeah, I’ve experienced a lot of prejudice too. I’ve had to deal with decades of emotional abuse from people I considered to be friends just for being trans not even because I’m therian, just because I’m trans. That’s why I don’t give a shit anymore. That’s why I decided to grow a spine and live my life the way I desire; and that’s why I’ll encourage my friends and family to do the same. If you don’t like it, that’s your problem, not mine.