My sexuality is focused on receiving loving and romantic physical affection, and to a lesser extent, giving it. To my brain, affectionate physical contact is sex ITSELF, not a prelude. In practice, this means that I’m very attracted to kisses and don’t care about real sex unless I had a partner who wanted it.

This really spoke to how I felt for most of my life. With that in mind, I can not recommend Ace by Angela Chen high enough. It was a monumental awakening for me to finally understand why I dreaded sex but craved affection. There are many shades of asexual and she discusses them all. Many lifelong feelings I had were for the first time validated in that book. I obviously can’t guarantee it will have the same effect for you, but the way you talk sounds VERY reminiscent of my past self questions.

Knowing and understanding myself has led to the most successful, caring and loving relationship of my life where we agreed long ago that sex was off the table. Nothing but bliss, marriage and good vibes have followed. Even if you don’t see yourself described in those pages, I think it will give you a lot of the language to navigate what could be the next step.

Hope this helps! <3

You wouldn’t download a corn would you?

Well there is that! Hands down the best thing to come out of the 2nd movie was a new Daft Punk album.

Oh! They are doing another Tron?

Oh… Jared Leto? Ew. Nevermind.

This sounds like a spin on Atalas Shurgged?

Which, ew…