southsamurai

It kinda varies for me.

.ee gets referenced less for sure. The folks I know that have used lemmy longest will do the dot ee, or double-e. Noobs tend to fumble with it, as in “lemmy with two ees at the end” and eventually go with whatever they’ve heard spoken most.

But .ml always gets the . I believe that’s because there’s no shorthand for it verbally. Mull? Mill? Mall? Too many options for most folks to bother trying.

Yup, that’s why we guide them to better practices, or try to. Back-up, back-up back-up.

It’s a legit concern, but one with a legit solution.

I kinda get it. Money usually equals a degree of stability of service. And people value that when switching from something they considered stable.

You gotta realize, some of the people that wanted to leave reddit in 23 and heard about lemmy, they asked some version of “but what if the person running the instance closes it?”. They don’t see the equivalence that if reddit was essentially shutting down parts of its service, that it was no better. Or that it doesn’t really matter because you just switch to a new instance if you can’t run your own. Nobody should be relying on a third party as their sole repository of whatever it is that they want to preserve in that regard either.

So, I get it. Discord is rarely down, and never for long. It’s ubiquitous. It isn’t anything like the kind of threaded forum reddit and lemmy are, but that’s not necessarily the primary goal of everyone that uses them.

Irl, people actually do say .world, .ml, .whatever, when the stuff before he dot is lemmy or close equivalent, and the conversation is about instances.

As in, “yeah, I had an account on .ml, but they be trippin, so I moved over to .ee”

But instances like the one I’m on just get called by what it says, or like blahaj, just by a single part.

Aka a whore bath, a sink/basin bath, a wash-up, hittin the high spots, wiping up, etc.

There’s all kinds of variants on it. I spent twenty years bathing, or helping bathe, people. You’d be amazed at the variety of ways folks will build up terms for such minor tasks that are regular and repeated that “need” a distinction from a more common thing

Once the default form of bathing turned into tubs, it was inevitable that bathing via a basin or other container develop its own nomenclature. Same as it became inevitable that once showers became ubiquitous that you’d run into distinctions between that and a tub bath.

Since the oldest form of bathing inside a house or structure was the one that lingered most in rural areas where indoor running water was last to appear, farmers were one of the last groups to take that kind of bath daily. So that’s the terminology that stuck in places where that was a factor.

However, the term “whore bath” preceded it by a good margin, going back to somewhere in the 1800s iirc. Since prostitutes got sweaty and sticky multiple times a day, the need for a quick bath of the “important” parts was a bit of a meme. When the daily bath for everyone started switching to tubs post piped water, the term got expanded into the fuller basin bathing methods that were used daily.

Mind you, daily bathing practices varied a lot everywhere. Some places and times, people might default to the bare minimum of hands, face, crotch, and ass. Sometimes not even all of that. I can’t recall the sect, but there was a religious group back in the 1700s that considered washing anything but the face, feet, and hands sinful.

The typical actual bath by farmers was fairly complete though. The more common farmer’s bath was often referring to the quick wash up they’d do while coming to a meal or otherwise taking a break. Hands, face, sometimes some water poured over the head, and more rarely an extra scrub at the pits. Again, the exact methods would vary a lot.

Talking to older folks from before running water was a thing was always interesting. We tend to forget how damn amazing it is that we can just turn a knob and get water. It’s something that has never been common everywhere. And, it hasn’t been so widespread before the last half of the last century. There’s still places all around the world where it isn’t even reliable in some cities, and many rural places don’t have it at all.

So you still run into a lot of farmers worldwide where a daily bath is a rag and a container of water.

Yeah, exactly. This isn’t news.

I’m cis too, but if it will help, I’ll be glad to do some of the copy/paste/format work. I’m slow as molasses, but it’ll get done.

Glad to help set stuff up, like text w/markdown for stickied posts, etc too. I’ll read and link in articles, whatever.

That sub is way too important to let reddit screw it up and not have at least a partial backup going.

I mean, it’s a chat based app. It isn’t a forum based app/service.

It’s still an alternative because that just means it’s an option. It isn’t a good alternative, and it’s definitely not a replacement.

Like blaze said it’s priorities. Small team by necessity, so you have to pick your projects.

Stability and reliability trump everything else. As long as lemmy has been around at this point, it’s still really early in development, or that’s what I’ve heard developers say. I don’t have the skills to say anything in that regard. So they put their time and effort into what they consider most important.

And I can see where more mod tools is lower on the list compared to things like database management and such. Basic functionality is there, and the user base is not so big that they can’t get the job done. It would sure be nice though

Well, that’s both good and bad.

Bad, because discord is just a stone’s throw away from doing the same kind of fuckery.

But good because the subject is important, the community is important, and it needs to be active.

But, bad, because places like the armed gay agenda, !armedqweers@lemmy.blahaj.zone exist here on lemmy, and there’s a strong presence of trans people that are willing to be armed and ready here.

Fwiw, anyone running across this that’s thinking about getting armed, but don’t have the knowledge base to move in that direction, don’t hesitate to holla at me. I’m no expert (though I am a damn good shot), but I’ll do what I can.

Also, there’s multiple gun communities on lemmy. Iirc, !guns@lemmy.world and !guns@lemmy.ml are the two most active, but !guns@lemmy.ee is there if those instances aren’t to your liking

I think there’s a bot that does some of it, but none of the communities I’m a moderator on have ever needed moderation. Lemmy is not prone to the level of malicious bullshit reddit was/is in smaller communities. So I’ve never looked into what’s available.

But it would be something external for sure, because the functionality isn’t built into lemmy, and I don’t think the folks doing the development want to have it built in.

That’s me :)

I always tried hard to be as accurate and honest as I could be without crossing lines. I still do, though it’s rare to run across stuff here that draws on the same set of experiences and reading that morbidquestions did.

The moderation actually improved a bit, imo. Reddit screwed up a lot of things, but they wiped out mods that had disappeared and got new ones in place that actively moderated. Or, that was my impression from conversations on discord and irl. I burnt out hard on the sub because of the spotty moderation, and then the api thing happened and I left reddit.

I still believe that forums like that are important. Not just as a safety valve for people, but to demystify some of the less pleasant subjects that people aren’t willing to talk about irl, and when they do, it’s hard to find good information. I’d love for a spot on lemmy to be active the way the sub was, and the way the discord sometimes is.

Thank you.

The chickens said bukbuk when I told them.

It’s hard to impress a chicken. Them being apex predators and all.

Thanks :)

Yeah, I started one here, told the folks on the discord about it, and nobody ever switched.

Mind you, I abandoned the sub a ways before reddit shit the bed in '23, but it had a warm and bloody place in my heart, and some of the people there were/are genuinely great folks.

Tbh, I think here moderation would be easy enough for now. Lemmy runs higher to people that actually read community rules. And, since there’s a lot less limits to what can be discussed overall, a small team could handle it as long as they aren’t all in the same time zone.

But, over on reddit, automod could handle most of it anyway. Throw in some keywords, set it to filter for mod review, and you’re good to go. Without that, if it got as big as the subreddit did, it could get to be a serious job.

Yeah, it gets the occasional post, but responses are few, and tend to take a while to show up

As usual, I have a chicken story.

This one isn’t as crazy as some.

Just this evening, I was in the bathroom, doing a thing chickens do outside.

My wife was taking care of the hen, bringing her in for the evening, filling up feeders, etc.

Well, big boy rooster had enough of her and decided to take his complaints to the head office.

He busts his way into the house, as the back door was ajar. He’s burbling and crowing and generally scrabbling on the linoleum.

My wife is calling him to GTFO of the house.

I start laughing, and he hears me. This results in him gobbling like a damn turkey and running around looking for me. I call his name in the friendly voice I use for him (I use a different pitch and tone for each chicken. Don’t ask me why. But they can tell who I’m talking to) he starts up his popcorn maker: tuk-tuk-tuk-tuk-tuk, stomping back and forth outside the bathroom.

The bathroom door opens outward, but doesn’t latch well. He gets a beak in and pops it open.

I give it a little push, and he closes it because he’s a rooster and they’re not very bright. He scrabbles at it again, I push it again, and he gets mad at the door and pecks it a bit. This, luckily, makes him angrier, and he backs up a little to fuck that door up.

I give it another push, and he comes flapping and bawking into the bathroom. He stops short as he runs into the shower door and bawks twice before looking around, seeing me and turning into a teakettle.

Chickens make this rising, gargling sound when they’re surprised. It sounds like a raspy teakettle. This is opposed to the sound they make when they’re startled, and feel threatened, which is an angry teakettle.

Anyway. This giant-ass bird is now on tile, in a room full of light, and there I am with naked legs. This is a sight that made him sit down. He gobbles again, pecks at my leg hair until I tell him to cut it out in my “you’re gong to be soup, you obstreperous bastard” voice. He backs up, stops trying to pull out hair, and just freezes for a moment. He looks me up and down, flaps his wings, and decides “fuck it”.

He jumps into my lap. With his giant, taloned feet. He wiggles and stomps until his tail is under my arm, and he’s in the position he gets scritches under his feathers in.

Now, this bird, I haven’t weighed. But he’s damn near the size of a basketball without his feathers. Like, when he’s wet, and they’re all droopy and sad, that’s about where he is; it isn’t like I’ve shaved him or anything. Yet.

So, while I’m trying to finish the job, I’m entertaining a rooster on my lap because I didn’t come outside to say goodnight. My wife is laid out in the floor of the porch laughing at me until she can’t breathe.

The hen, at this point, has poked her head in and noped the hell out. So has every human in the house. Because of course everyone wants to see a sasquatch petting his cock on the toilet. Which is exactly what my wife texted everyone on her contact list apparently.

Which is the end of the good part of the story. But, this rooster normally dislikes staying in the crate on the back porch because he has to wait on someone to let him out in the morning. But, for whatever reason, once we had exited the bathroom, he stomps his way over to it, and insists that he be put in (it’s elevated because my back ain’t bending down to check on him at night). So, he is spending the night on the porch in good weather because he has had a mood.

Dude.

Dude.

Just don’t, okay.

You don’t have the training or background to interpret the data on the subject, and have obviously not done due diligence on the matter. You are talking out of your ass based on not understanding what is going on.

Part of that is shitty writing on other people’s part; a lot of articles out there are written by people that don’t actually understand what they’re writing about, so when people read them, it gets even worse.

But there’s a bloody reason why nobody with a degree relevant to the matter of advantages or disadvantages of medical transition comes down as it being an inherent and universal advantage. It just isn’t.

I’m saying this because there’s a good chance you don’t intend to parrot bad information, that you think you’ve done enough reading on the subject to have a good grasp of it. But you haven’t. Stop trying to be some kind of free speech martyr and go back to the books. Go back and do more than just read pop science level articles.

Also, the “of equivalent size and height” part doesn’t mean what you think it means.

When two people of the same mass and height are equivalent, that means there isn’t an advantage in one of them being trans. A cis woman that’s taller and more muscled than their competitors has the same advantage as the trans woman. That’s what it means, that size matters, but transition doesn’t. There’s no contradiction in that.

Now, if you want to argue about how long after beginning hormone treatments a trans person needs to wait before competing in their sport of choice as their confirmed gender, that’s cool. But, since you don’t just change clothes and start competing as it is, you’ll find it’s a pointless argument.

The process of transition is longer and more complicated than you seem to think. People aren’t just jumping up, declaring that they’re trans and trying to compete with cis women the next day. It doesn’t work like that at all. By the time a trans woman or girl is competing against cis women, they have been undergoing hormonal treatment.

The problem with that is the author’s unawareness of risk aware kink.

If someone is doing breath play, or applying blood restriction during their play, they know damn good and well it’s never fully safe.

The problem comes in with noobs and idiots thinking that you can bypass serious effort at learning how to minimize risk with reading some random internet article on a bot written blog.

There are absolutely ways to make the risk so minimum that it has to be some kind of unknown factor driving the risk upwards and not being accounted for to cause injury or death. But those things do happen. It’s a real and unavoidable possibility.

There’s also difference between strangulation and proper breath play, but that’s another example of a writer not doing due diligence in terminology

You know, I actually believe this one.

Totally gay though.