• captainlezbian@lemmy.world
      1·
      3 days ago

      Odds are with some level of effort someone is willing to fuck you unless you throw off huge danger flags. Working on your personality, appearance, and social skills just make it so your odds go from largely the sort of people who’d fuck anyone to the sort of people who are more selective

  • qyron@sopuli.xyz
    3·
    4 days ago

    be 20 y/o permavirgin

    I was 22 when I had my first time. Never considered myself a permavirgin.

    Happy the poster found happiness for the following reasons:

    a) he got laid

    b) he’s no longer a virgin

    c) he found happiness

    d) he found someone to love and that loves him back

    e) there are two more people happy in the world

    but, holy turtle on a skateboard, am I really happy for having one less doofus complaining of being alone.

    Bring on the hate! I love you all!

    • uniquethrowagay@feddit.org
      2·
      4 days ago

      I was 29 years old when I met my first girlfriend and had my first sex and I regret nothing. I didn’t really realize it at the time, but I wasn’t at all ready at 20 years old.

        • captainlezbian@lemmy.world
          1·
          3 days ago

          So given your other comment, a lack of experience is normal here. Speaking as someone who has been on many sides of the ability to get laid spectrum from “nobody will ever fuck me” to regular group sex, to “both of my partners have been in long funks of not wanting sex and I’ve grown too picky for casual” the think you need to understand is that it’s not going to just happen, but trying too hard will ensure it doesn’t.

          Go out, meet new people, dress nice for it, and be your most enjoyable to be around self, and start learning to flirt (it’s a skill and everyone starts terrible at it).

          • WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.todayEnglish
            1·
            2 days ago

            Here’s the messed up part: I practically DID get cornered by a woman, but made an excuse to be somewhere else. So I got some demons to resolve.

    • lurch (he/him)@sh.itjust.works
      0·
      3 days ago

      I was way younger and it was super cringe. It was also fun and hot, but looking back I shouldn’t have tried to get laid so early and desperately. We were so stupid back then.

      For example, one girl actually persuaded me into having unprotected sex, which I didn’t want, but I wanted to get laid so desperatly that I agreed. She was using a calendar to track her period and fertile days and that was risky AF and didn’t account for STDs as well. This is something you can maybe do as a long time couple, but not with a person you just met three days ago.

      • qyron@sopuli.xyz
        1·
        3 days ago

        Definetely not.

        I was a blood doner when I met my partner. I was constantly asked/reminded that having casual sex partners would ban me for six months from donating; I have a fairly uncommon blood type for my country, so I was very keen on not being put on “quarantine”.

        When we said it was the right moment for us to be together, I went to make a donation before and warned I would not be donating for the nexy six months for obvious reasons.

        I was thanked for the warning and about two weeks later received a full bloodwork panel, including STDs, attesting I was clean and as safe as possible.

        When I did return for my next donation, when asked if had been with new sex partners for the last six months, when I replied I was still doing the same, since my last visit, everyone laughed.

        Never pressure anyone into unprotected sex. Ever.

  • mindbleach@sh.itjust.works
    1·
    4 days ago

    Aggravated I can’t find that feminization pipeline image that’s like ‘gay, super gay, mega gay, ultra gay… straight.’

  • GNUmer@sopuli.xyzEnglish
    2·
    4 days ago

    Real: Dude thought he was going to be a permavirgin at age 20

    Gay: He’s pinning a Discord femboy

    • Comment105@lemm.ee
      01·
      4 days ago

      To expand on that, there are no successful fem-men for good reason. So around the age of 30 “twink death” will set in, and anon will go longer like his former femboy, at least not for that part of him.

      Unlike most gay men, he’s probably not actually comfortable being with a man. They’re not prepared to grow old together because he relies on his boyfriend’s ability to maintain his suspension of disbelief. That will almost certainly no longer be possible after twink death no matter how hard he tries.